See Floyd, when you get away from the "shoulds" you get free to see the "what is" without expecting a "should" like you control the system or something. Or like it's a science.
When it comes to this, it's not a+b+c=z It's more like "I can only control the value of a. What happens after that, happens and it'll be ok. It'll be what it is."
You might want to wait on the dating a bit, until you get more settled. I get that you're lonely and angry and your ex is still trying to actively hurt you. That may not be a good time to get into a relationship with somebody. It may get in the way later.
Just a suggestion.
By the way, my ex is starting to calm down more and more these days. Her attacks have calmed down both in tone and frequency. Not that she's done, but it's far less caustic than it's been.
Know what changed? Me. I stopped responding. I stopped engaging. Period. I kept everything to just business and she eventually had no choice but to begin doing same.
Along the way, I let go of even more that I was holding on to. I became more free than I had been. Not that I realized I could be, but it happens
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
