I think perhaps you misunderstood my comment, I wasn't saying that living as a married couple in separate homes is something you should accept forever, I was saying that if your W thinks that she wants that -right now- then don't fight her on it, look at it as the first step in eventually reconciling under the same roof. Keep in mind that WAS's constantly change their minds, so today she may want that, but tomorrow or next week or next month she may be ready to move back in together.
Then yes I totally misunderstood you LOL! It's not a deal breaker that she can't come back yet...With time her feelings for me have cleared up so her feelings about living together may do that as well. But unfortunately this will take a long time I think.
I did read No More Mr. Nice Guy and it's changed my perspective quite a bit.
Originally Posted By: Melissag
Does this change your desire to want to be with your W? Would you be just as happy (or happier) if you found someone new, or am I reading too much into what you are saying?
You're not reading *too* much into this. I'm currently going nuts as I seem to be following two roads in my head at the same time. I no longer suffer from what people call "one-ism". I don't believe she's the only one for me....yet I still love her regardless of what she's caused me.
I will be happy and whole again; I hope she'll be part of my future but I don't really need her to be the one anymore. It's very hard to explain, people get annoyed at me for saying that.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
