All of your responses mimic my thoughts exactly, PM. I still very much love W. I probably always will. For me to be friends with her, knowing that she chose not to be with me, chose to take daughter out of my home, leave our friends and family and start this life with someone who is seemingly much less than myself is very difficult.
La, Don't get me wrong. I would love nothing more than to be great friends with W and OM. In a perfect world, wouldn't it be great if we could do things together and enjoy each others company? Sure it would. unfortunately, the hurt, the anger and the feeling that she is not doing what is best for daughter (or herself) makes it very hard on me. Cap that off with the feeling that she simply gave up and walked away without HONESTLY trying to save the marriage makes it even that much harder. So, how do I get there? How do I become "friends" with someone that has hurts me so much, especially when I have a 7 year old constant reminder that things are not the way they are supposed to be? How does W get passed the hurt and anger? It's a pretty tall order. I want to be that person. I just don't know how to disconnect my sad feelings and hold onto the good ones. Any advice?
