We are getting along, but i have this fear of the other shoe dropping. Like, 'am i going to get served today with divorce papers?'. Idk. Meanwhile i just go to counseling and keep reading stuff.
Another thing I have been doing is trying to 'be attractive'. She hates when i grow a beard so i have been keeping clean shaven. I started wearing cologne again which she even asked me why. All i said was 'I am trying to make an effort' and left it at that.
For good or bad I did enough snooping to verify that there doesn't appear to be OM or anything. At least there isn't any electronic evidence of the fact. That is a slippery slope there so I am done with that.
She still hasn't asked about my conversation with another lawyer. I find that hard to believe. I am kind of waiting to see what the next R conversation looks like, to decide if i need to pursue another consultation with that lawyer. Limbo land continues.............
Waiting for the other shoe to drop....Living on eggshells is incredibly tough and stressful. You both probably are, though she is the one holding the cards so probably a little different for her. Hopefully someone can chime in on this with some advice. I did not fare well at all in this area...still don't through our litigation.
If she does ask about lawyer conversation do not discuss it. That is between you and your lawyer. Whatever you tell her, she will tell her lawyer. It won't help you.
No more snooping. It doesn't help and can backfire. Either she isn't and she will be angry for breaking trust and her privacy or she is and she will be angry for breaking trust and her privacy plus your hurt will be large. Mine was the latter. No matter what, you become the bad guy.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
