"Why am I so hell bent on discussing things or focusing on this one person who does not seem to value me???"

This^^^is because you spent 17 years of your life with her. This is normal I did the same thing.

M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden