Separated since 9/6; first hopeful, now dismal...

[newton0]

Thanks BKS. I agree. She knows I am still in therapy and she is welcome to rejoin me if she wishes.

I emailed her last night and told her she will need to get her own auto insurance as I cancelled her policy. I gave her a week to obtain new insurance.

I also told her I was filing taxes separately this year so she will need to file her own.

At this point, it doesn't seem to make any difference what I do, so I've decided to act like I am divorced and moving on with my life.

In December I got a roommate who incidentally is going through the same mess. I also bought a new truck as she took the SUV and I wanted the utility functionality. She seemed nonplussed, actually sort of indignant by both facts.

I also drained the joint bank account, and will start moving assets around. I gave her a boatload of cash to help her through this early on which she said she would use for 'security'.

No more cake-eating for her. If she doesn't want to be a part of my life then I'm tired of pretending and giving her the best of both worlds.

I looked at emails form when she first moved out >4 months ago and nothing has changed on her end. They may have been written yesterday.

The only thing left is what to do with her remaining items here. Now that she has an apartment, I should tell her she needs to come get the last of her stuff and be done with it.

In a way I feel kind of sorry for her, but I'm sure that will change when I get served.