Thanks AS for the kind words, i know i didnt do too well but whats done is done. I found it particularly difficult to validate when she is straight out lying/or deciding to see things differently. Sometimes i can get myself into a personal fog that makes DB'ing difficult, last night i kept my distance and we didnt really interact, i think it needs a bit of time to let us both calm down. I agree with the part about my parents and they are not helping me (no doubt well meaning) and next time i speak to them i will let them know what i expect from them. I am feeling a little bit clearer today and am back on the DB horse. Its great that the majority of people on here maybe understand that some of us (i know i do) find this more difficult than others and need a gentle prod in the right direction and help and can do this in a kind way with humility. This isnt lost on me and i can only say thank you for your post yesterday it really helped me re-focus and knowing i am not alone in all this.
Cheers H
Me: 39 W: 33 Son:7 Daughter:4 Its Over: March 7th 2013 Moved back home Mid June, trying to make it work