Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

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Well, I am not detached. Every time I think I'm making headway, another bomb drops. Other woman's two sons also spent the night together with my kids this last time at husband's new apartment. After discussion in which I told him I was frustrated he was still not telling me things regarding my kids before they happened, he replied, "well, I guess I should tell you she's moving in". Now, a month after he move out, he is setting up another family in another house without me - with my kids. I am not feeling detached about this and this whole "be the lighthouse" mentality just seems to be keeping me stuck - he doesn't seem to see the extreme insensitivity/disregard for me in all these things, and yet I'm still having trouble getting past my view of him as someone I could rely on and trust all these years. How do all you do it?