You too Bug. TS needs love and support.
We're here pal. How's it going? There is an elephant in the room. Definitely let her initiate any R talk. Keep detaching. Being nice. Protect yourself and your babies.

M17 yrs.
me49
xW47
d15
d11

BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out)
Therapy 9 months (tried 2)
BD2- May/12(sep)
Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50
Sold home - Aug/13
Court #2 - Dec/13
Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again
We settled.