I pop in to catch up on you every once in a while and holy smokes!! I am so incredibly happy for you-there are hardly words. I have no doubt that the remaining bits and pieces will come together for you and your H...you'll be able to air your grievances and say everything you need to say.
Maybe a new ring is in order? Re-set your old diamonds in a new setting or just trade in (trade up?) for something new? I know jewelry isn't exactly your first priority when you have four kids but that might be just the thing to make the old new again. The phoenix from the ashes and all that stuff.
PM me sometime if you want to catch up... I don't want to hijack your thread.