Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

Feeling super confused today. I'm trying my best to follow the rules, detach, and give him space, but it's like he's thwarting my every move! I go to watch TV in the other room, H comes in to watch with me because he wants to see that show, too. I go to the guest room (where I'm sleeping) to read a book, H comes in to ask me questions/show me a picture of the cat/tell me a random story about work. H says he's going to the grocery store, I say "OK, I'll plan to go later in the day" and he says "well why don't we go together to save a trip?" I don't know what to do besides live somewhere else! He's much nicer and spending more time with me almost than before the BD. I don't know what to make of it. I know I shouldn't mind read, but I wonder if these are "baby steps" that I keep reading about or if they mean nothing? I've avoided R talk since I pushed him to tell him about the apparent EA, and the only things he's said are that he plans to call a lawyer sometime "this week" to learn more about the process because he was "too busy" last week.

I'm also really struggling with not having a "plan". I've always been the "doer" or "planner", and to not have a plan is driving me crazy. I know I just need to let go and be patient, but part of me wonders if I'm living in a fantasy world by not taking steps to establish my independence/single life (like looking for an apartment, separating joint finances, etc.) Is "acting as if" I'm moving on more of an attitude than actually taking logistical steps?