2S2Q - Bring it on, 2014!!!

[Barrybran]

Someone commented on my thread that my wife will go in cycles and we seem to be in similar spots in some ways so stay tuned for cycles from your wife.

The separate places thing "for now" could work in your favour, especially if she's saying she still loves you. Time and space for her and time and space for you to work on you. Sounds like a win-win.

As for being a "married couple who live in separate places", I think it's just words from your wife but we'll roll with the premise here. I think you'd need to decide if that's a dealbreaker for you. In the short term, it's a great idea, but if my wife said she wanted to live in separate homes for the duration of our marriage, I wouldn't go for it and that would become a boundary for me. Then comes the challenge of expressing it in a way that you understand her feelings and will respect her decision but you envisage married life as being under one roof. I'll leave that to the vets to get the words right but the point is, after a reasonable time (6 months? 1 year? 2 years?) can you live with being married to her while having separate homes?