Is it normal for a person to have a change of heart but still want to remain separate?
It's not unusual, probably her biggest fear is that things will go back to "normal", IE, that you will both fall into the same old habits that drove her away. So she's afraid to recommit fully because she thinks you'll quit working on you. All you can do is keep giving her time and space as she works through this at her pace.
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She said that in time she found that her feelings for me haven't changed, she does love me. She's willing to work on our relationship slowly, in time...what that means, I don't know.
Well it's a great sign, and I think all she's saying is she doesn't want to rush back into anything which is actually good, because you shouldn't want to either.
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She also let off a weird comment "who knows, maybe we'll find ourselves in a marriage where we simply live in separate places"....???
Not really that wierd. Again her fear is that things will go back to the way they were. Her thinking is that you're getting along well separated, so why spoil it. That's fine for her to think that, she's working her way back to thinking about the M. Just tell her you're perfectly fine with that. You want her to see that you're on her side. No arguing, no pressure, no conflict. Go with the flow
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I had assumed that things would seem a little for more linear when she came around...
You should read threads over in piecing then, because it is never ever never linear! That's one of the things people talk about the most is how NOT linear the recovery process is.
