Voldy took a sh*t fit on her. She told her she would not come and pick her up (it was a 10-15 min. drive) and that she expected her home at midnight or she was calling the police. D16 said Voldy kept phoning her back every two minutes and launching into speeches which included things like "you could get raped out there, you know" OMG. Here is D16 lost at 11 pm and Voldy is carrying on like an insane person! What a fruit loop I married. D16 got home at midnight after calling her bf, who knows the bus routes well, and he guided her home. I said to D16 that I wasn't excusing her mother's actions but "you know your Mom, she blows and can't stop herself and then the next day feels horrible and tries to make amends" Sure enough, when I picked D16 up she read and huge...and I mean huge, text from her mother saying she, Voldy, wished she had of handled the situation better and then went on about how proud she was of her daughter finding her way home in a difficult situation etc. Of course, she proceeded to explain why she reacted in such a way...blah blah blah. Anyway, I asked daughter if she replied and she said "no!She always does this Daddy and then we'll have to sit down and have a talk which will last for an hour" "
Wii,
Maybe this is an opportunity -- can D16 start learning how to practice self-care and set boundaries? She has learned to accept this treatment. How can she learn instead to treat herself with respect?
She's not learned it yet, she may as well learn how to do it with her mother now :-)
