But standing up for yourself is never wrong, Ang. Not allowing yourself to be abused in anyway isnt either. It is not ok to be treated like that. And if you stand up for yourself and he leaves, then you would have stood up for yourself and he made a choice. How is that your fault?
You want to be strong and confident for you. And the hope and possibility is that he sees it, too.
If your marriage gets saved as a result of you not standing up for yourself and leaving things the way they are - is your marriage really saved?
You have to want more for yourself. You have to feel deserving of it. You want a marriage based on respect, A. You want a marriage built of trust. Trust that he will treat you with honor and dignity. And that you will do the same. It may seem like a thin line, but, really it isnt.
In order to have a healthy marriage, you have to be healthy and so does he. You cant do anything about his part, but you sure can do something about yours.
Become who you were meant to be. Become someone strong and courageous and whole. Then if he does the work, you can make decisions from a place of strength.
Let him go, A. Leave him to figure himself out. Holding on doesnt bring about change. It doesnt allow you to walk your journey. It keeps you stuck. And being stuck isnt where you want to be.
TIme for you to say that today you are worthy and you deserve respect.
Letting go doesnt mean you dont love him. It means you love him very much. But more importantly, it means you love you.
Thanks, uR. I hope you know how much you've helped me, especially this past week.
