You're saying you can't be friends with her unless she is committed to reconciling? First, the two of you will be coparents for the REST OF YOUR LIVES. Do you want to have a friendly relationship with the other coparent or a resentful, angry, antagonistic relationship? And if you answer the latter, then let me rephrase it and ask which is best for your D? Second, do you think your W would ever consider reconciling if you can't demonstrate to her first that you can be good friends? You've probably heard me mention my buddy that has been piecing, his wife was one of those angry, spiteful WAW's, she HATED him when she left. They barely spoke for over a year. After they started talking it was another year before they started going out together and that was strictly as friends. It was many months after that before they became intimate again. For many reconciled couples, becoming friends again was the first step in the rebuilding process.
