I want a new marriage to the same woman! I want to experience intimacy and love with her on a level that neither of us knew or understood how to give. I want to romance this woman and experience her and understand her, and I desire that she also provide that for me.
Your W wants something very different, she probably just wants out of the M. So your goals and hers are at odds. The more you push for what you want, then the more she's going to run. Personally I think you need to quit focusing on how bad you want your W back and what that might look like. You named this thread "Seeing Both Possible Futures!", so my question to you is this- what does your -other- possible future look like? The one without your W? Picture that one, imagine a great life that you can have WITHOUT your W. Then prepare yourself for EITHER of those futures. Once you get there, where you know you will be fine REGARDLESS of whether your W is part of your life or not, then you are in a much better position to make yourself into the spouse only a fool would leave and to become the independent, strong, healthy person that might attract your W back.
