PatientMan - 6th Edition - Acting Divorced

[PatientMan]

How did your W react to the conversation and the boundaries?

She was in general agreement. She has maintained for over two years that she has to be "okay on her own" before she could ever consider moving forward with me again. So even though she was obviously moving closer and closer to me, she was still "spook-able" and realized she wasn't ready yet.

So let's do this whole "boundary" thing and see how it works. As labug pointed out, at least it will provide some clarity. The downside is that I will get to see the kids less...I will be less a part of their daily lives and that really hurts.

Previously I was the one helping out with homework, talking to them about their day, doing devotions with them, and tucking them in at night. *I* already miss that, I know the girls will miss that, and it's an extra burden on XW to take care of those duties.

But she is determined, so I'm laying off.

What about your girls?

We will formally talk to them soon about the changes, but we've already mentioned phrases like "mom's weekend" and "dad's weekend." However, they don't fully grasp what's going on and it's hurting them when I'm not sticking around like usual.

How was the first week with the new rules in place?

It was brutal. I saw my T on Saturday, who suggested that I seriously consider going on ADs.

Please remember, whenever you are having a hard time, you can always come here to vent or just get some virtual hugs.

(((PM)))

Thanks!