So I told her I am now speaking as if I am a therapist not as H. And I lead her, all the while allowing her to tell me why she thought certain events happened, and what she feels her emotions where at the time, and how OM manipulated etc, then I would explain to her the how's of the event and the whys etc from all the pyshology and therapy materials inhad learned.
I basically gave her a crash course in affairs and the personalities of those who take part in them. I then ended the convo although she wanted to go on. I told her that was enough for one night
SM, this ^^^ concerns me greatly. We have warned you over and over again not to play Mister Fixit with her, yet here you go again. Just that first line "I am now speaking as if I am a therapist" really makes me cringe. Because you are NOT a therapist and you have no business speaking as one. Reading a few books makes you dangerous, not helpful. Your W needs a REAL therapist badly. And a REAL therapist is going to tell her things that are MUCH different than what you tell her, because you frankly don't know what you're talking about. And that is just going to confuse her. So STOP the counseling and leave that to the professionals.
You're seeing some great progress from your W, don't screw it up by trying to tinker!
