RT, I read your post on working through fear over in Newcomers and you and I have a similar process a skill I've learned from my IC. When I really examine my fear, I discover most of it comes from the same wound.

#5 above-Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control, is still a challenge and probably will be for the rest of my life. When I think something might be off in H's world, I can feel the anxiety rising in my gut. I now call that my early warning system, it's my signal to stop and ask myself, "what's going on?" I realize how hyper-vigilant I was/am. I'm able to figure it out and let it go but it's been quite an eye-opener.

Thanks everyone for checking in.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss