A billion years ago you were here telling us you didn't know how to compliment and that was a problem in your marriage.

She might lack self esteem, which is not for you to fix.

But you lack empathy that would enable you to provide the love language that speaks to her, and you should be working on learning better and practicing to be more attuned to what makes her happy, or you will have an unhappy wife on your hands again.

You have been way too focused on her affair chemicals imo, and on what she needs to fix, and need to turn your focus back on what you need to fix about you.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.