3-My DB coach told me to try to forgive resentments daily so that they do not build up. This worked really well for me for a while. I'm having a tough time right now, but maybe that will help you. At the end of each day, I would try to take all the bad behavior and remember that my H is in a bad place and forgive. I would remind myself that if the roles were reversed that I would want to be forgiven, too.

(I guess I should take my own advice again)

Hope the rest of you don't get sick! You're a great mom!

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014