Gabbysmom, I hear ya. I don't think it's a one size fits all kind of world.
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Compassion, not over my dead body. Forgiveness, who knows.
Those two are, at least, not mutually exclusive
How about 10 years from now. Think you'll feel the same? Or when your daughter goes off to college? Not picking - just asking.
And out of curiosity, how is that affecting you in the here and now?
Don't get me wrong - I'm not suggesting you become friends or anything like that. I'm not suggesting you sweep something under the rug. And I'm certainly not suggesting how you should feel.
I'm just curious. We come from different situations and I can only imagine the hurt and suffering you felt and still feel when you see your daughter. In some ways, I live that with my own daughter, although she's much older and I doubt it's very similar; just that I know how seeing a hurt child affects me. I also see it with my son, especially around the holidays.
For me, I have been very actively looking for a way to break the cycle of hurt for me and my kids. For me, anger isn't going to work for very long. Changing who I am won't either. There was another way for me to adapt and still be me and still help my kids. A different perspective.
We've been doing this a long time now, eh?
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
