Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[Fartiltre]

Scott,

You just made a short resume of my life during 5 month last year when I lived with W after BD.

I can’t tell why she is curious about your doings. She could be just curious, a little nosey or just plain polite. You will never know and you shouldn’t care!

My WAW seemed totally fine all the way and she still does. She has changed some and she is not the same woman as prior to BD. I think this I totally normal in here.

If you do not feel like doing her favors – then don’t. You are not her “fixer” anymore. She wants to leave you and M – then act like she has already done it. I know this is hard when living together because you need the household running, but looking back I did a lot of wrong things trying to please my WAW.

Put you and the children in focus and stop worrying so much about your Ws sayings and doings. Be nice and pleasant. Sandi once told me: You are the pleasant and nice neighbor – she is the nosey neighbor. Handle yourself and your W that way.

The thoughts you are having are totally normal but you need to deal with them! So IMO you are not losing it! You are a normal LBH three months in, but do not make the mistakes so many of us have! Do NOT backslide – do not bring up any R-tal

F