I missed your post. Looks like you and I were cross-posting.
Don't sell yourself short - you have a great deal to offer this Board. Reading others threads, even if I could not offer advice was a great help to me, especially in the beginning. And sometimes when I ramble, I am so surprised by someone saying that my rambling helped them.
Because we are all confused. And sometimes, even by journalling, we can have an a-ha! moment and find another way to handle things or a different perspective.
As a person along this journey, you have a unique perspective as well.
My latest "lesson" has been learning that there are, for me, two kinds of "done" with our MLCers. There is the "done" with the antics and the abuses and the crumbs. There is setting boundaries and there is accepting that things are indeed over. But in that kind of "done" (the one I am in now), I am not done enough that if Skippy did not truly make an effort that I can say it would be too late for him. The door is cracked open, still.
Then there is the "done" where the door is closed and commnication is gone and we are OK with that. I am not that kind of done yet. I always thought it had to be one or the other, but it does not have to be.
Alba, I hear you - the upside to that though, is at least you can observe H. With vanishing Skippy, I can only guess if his R is as ended as he says or if that was just temporary or if he jsut got himself a new one. But, I am beginning to wonder less and less. You sound like you are handling things like a champ, though.
