You are right about both needs needing to be met. I've taken up running as a daily routine in part for the exercise but also it is the best time for me to think. I am alone with my thoughts and have no outside influence and it gives me clarity. My thoughts lately have been enough is enough. My wife is very comfortable in her virtual safe world. I think that I need to look within to what my needs are and see if she is willing to give a little or not. I think that I have reached my FYP!
Wife emotionally checked out 2 years ago ILYBNLWY 2/1/2013 M-48, W-40 D-9 Living together in separation for daughter