NOW, I just found your thread and reading it was making me sweat. It is like you were describing my H and our marriage. And we are very close in age too.
It is also amazing that I’ve just discovered the same web site about Law of Attraction.
I’m very curious what kind of advice the vets are going to give you. You describe your sitch very well. I’m not as good. I’ve been doing what uRworthy advised for a long time now (18 months since BD.) I give him space, I let him lead, I don’t pursue and don’t initiate any contact (except for business), but I don’t see anything happening. It is stagnant. Yes, I did grow a lot during this time and I’m a lot stronger. I feel better about myself. My friends tell me how much I changed. But my H doesn’t see it and doesn’t know.
It is interesting that you said you’ve got an invite for a date. I had the same situation about a year ago. And I declined too. Then I retreated to myself and stopped going to the places where I could be asked for a date. I’m in a different place these days. I’m not ready for a serious relationship, but I would like to have more friends. The word “date” doesn’t scare me as much anymore. I just state my boundaries and intentions up front. I feel more comfortable with myself.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
