About asking him to come back to the bedroom . . . why did you ask him that? I am guessing that if he wants to come back and sleep in the bedroom, he will let you know. You were pretty much just setting yourself up for that "ouch" and pressuring him at the same time.
On the plus side, at least you know where you stand for now. So you don't have to wonder, and you can just go about doing your own thing.
One thing I have been working on, because I know I did it a lot, as did (does) my H, and I think can be really destructive, is telling someone else how they feel or should feel. Watch out for how you phrase things.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
