"Seeing" Both Possible Futures!

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So that is my goal and my desire and what I want...

I am still not convinced how to arrive there. For example, W got very mad at me about a week ago when I went out for a run. I've been running for 4 months and have lost about 40 pounds.

She said she asked me to run with her last year and I was up for doing it but we never got around to lining up babysitters 3x a week to go running together. She blames me for this.

This is just one example of MANY. But my GALing and 180s - at times they are making her angry. I know I am not responsible for her emotions. I'm fine on an existential level if she gets pissed off for the wrong reasons sometimes. But shouldn't this process of "becoming the husband only a fool would leave" be leading us toward some more positive interactions with each other?

Or are several more months of validating and listening to the blame game just part of the process that has the highest likelihood of success?