BrightFuture you seem to have hit the nail on the head. My wife enjoys all of the comforts and joys of being in a good marriage without emotionally being in a marriage. Our day to day life is like we are this great couple minus any intamacy of any kind. If i am obviously pushing towards her she pulls away. I have to be extremly subtle or it's rejection. Her 2 best friends are both divorced so she has all of the emotional support she needs so I often feel like I'm kicking a dead horse with my efforts.
I would love to pick your brain a little more about your previous similar situation.
As you may or may not have read, I told H I needed more out of our burgeoning relationship at this point. He said what if I can't? I basically said then see ya.
I have realized that of course H is comfy...who wouldn't be? Lol...but if we are to continue to explore a relationship he also must move a little into the uncomfortable.
But I think the key was I was really willing to drop the rope. Absolutely and 100%. So when it isn't enough anymore for you, you will know..I think you are coming to that point.
AJ is right, both your needs are a factor. Not just hers
