OMs, cycling, cakes and confusion Oh my Lord ;)

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So that was excellent last night! Dinner was very pricey, unexpectedly. We had checked out the menu online before making reservations but their prices were not printed. Dont you hate it when they do that?

Points of conccern:

1) I was getting dressed and she had already put on a gorgeous dress that was very form fitting. As soon as I walked passed her she said "what, no comment? If I was knocking your socks off, you would have already commented on how good I look". Spent the rest of the time we were getting ready trying to make it up and saying how nice she looks but she said it wa prompted now.

2) when ww walked out into living room her dad said I looked sharp with my nice shirt and pants. So again she said what about me? Am I chopped liver? So I told her we are so used to you looking sharp and being well dressed. I usually look lie I'm homeless and that is why yoir dad commented then hr dad agreed that she always looked good and gave her a hug and apologized.

3) at the restaurant she sat very stiff and kept adjusting her hair. She was so preoccupied with how she looked. I told her i was so happy to be out with the most beautiful woman in the world. But that I want her to loosen up and enjoy the evening with me. I said yes you for sure look gogeous, but I enjoy spending time with you even when you wear your jeans with holes in them and tie your hair back. She said thank you I really appreciatr that, really appreciate that!.

4) she took a selfie pic of both of us and posted it to facbook. Then kept on checking her phone and saying wow twenty likes, wow twenty five likes etc. Not sure if she was happy so many people liked that we were getting back together or that she, or maybe we, lookd good.

This is all too much vanity and concern for looks. Her self esteem is SHOT. She was never ever like this! She had said on BD that I ruined her self esteem but now I'm seeing that one year with OM didn't help much either. No doubt her being cheated on by OM was a big factor because of how he was the mechanism by which she was judging her beauty and therefore her self worth.

How do I help her wth self esteem? I can say she is beautiful until I'm blue in the face, its not helping much. There are situations like the ones I outlined above, all the time!!