I think you're missing the bigger picture where you both get your needs met. DB is about more than saving your marriage, but it's important to see the bigger picture before action - I think that's where you're getting wrapped around the axle.
I think there's another forum on this site that may also help.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
