To answer both you and Floyd I must lead my life by example and to apply the golden rule and be respectful. Example: I make sure to communicate to W directly about the kids and there whereabouts or actitivities even when she does not do the same with me. I am also trying to be respectful of her wish for quiet and space by not communicating more than needed and by not using methods of communicating that bother her (like voice or in person) . Text or email seeks to be what she tolerates best at the moment.

Floyd, respect is a two way street. I would appreciate that she would speak with me about what she feels is causing the break in our marriage. Inmust be respectful and listen. But not communicating about such an important thing is not helpful either.

One would say...she is communicating. ..her silence speaks volumes and yet, leaving me guessing how to peice this back together is not very helpful.

I must continue to focus on making my life and my Kidd time with me the beet it csn be. That is all that I can do. Her journey is hers. If she invited me great. If not, I must stand without her andmove forward.


me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14