Wife Said She's Done - Pt. 2 ..and Still Hopeful

[OneDay]

Dude, you need to work on that fear. What you're doing is unfair to both of you.

What was so difficult about taking the lead and saying "W, I know you wanted to talk finances tonight and I know that's a talk we need to have but I'm not able to do that right now. Can we do it X?" And then DO IT.

Being passive and then calling foul when she reacts negatively is not the way to be in control or you. You are giving her the control and then blaming her when things don't go as you would like.

You've got work to do.

I agree.with you. That's exactly what I'm doing. It's just so dam hard for me. I feel like if I talk about all the things assosiated with the divorce that I'm actually encouraging it. I also know I can ignore because it's not going away.

She is in full business mode and actually admitted it today. I told her I know we were suppose to talk last night and that we need to talk I'm just not dealing with all this very well right now. She said she wasn't either and even though she appears composed, she's been in business mode. She was so far in business mode that she was ready to switch all of our combined bills(cell phone, insurance etc) as of today. She thought that's what I wanted. We just agreed to split finances and living expenses 3 days prior. The ionly thing we agreed on was closing and dividing the account. I can't figure this women out and I need to stop trying.

Come to think of it. I don't know where she's gonna live after the big D. Where are my boys gonna be. I never asked her. Should I ask her at this stage of our divorce. I thought we were not suppose to bring up divorce talks as it goes against DBing but correct me if I'm wrong because I have a lot of questions for her espesially after the last response I recived from her attorney.

And labug. Feel free to slap me around anytime. I need all the help I can get