New to the forum, I'll give a quick history of my marriage. Been married for 11 years my first marriage my wife's second have 2 step sons and 1 daughter. During the course of our marriage there have been rocky times, mainly my fault but as of November 1 we decided to separate, I have been working on making myself a better person, reading the book has helped a ton plus moving out of the house has allowed me to realize what is important in my life. I felt like I didn't always put 100% effort into being a husband and father but moving out help me understand what was important to me.
The main problem I'm dealing with is that my current wife has only mentioned divorce once since we separated, that was the first week after I moved out but is already seeing her old high school boyfriend. They hadn't seen each other in 25 years but he always cried on her shoulder via Facebook every time he had a relationship end, he has been married 3 times and has 5 kids. So now it was her turn to cry on his shoulder. She also knew he would drop what he was doing and help her out, which he did, he has gave her money and helped her out with fixing things around the house that I didn't get to plus installing things that we never had, ex. garbage disposal.
I'm focusing on making myself a better person while she is focusing on her new relationship. She has noticed that I am making changes and improvements in my life but has not tried to fix things, I have not tried to mettle in her daily activities, we stay in contact about the kids but otherwise not much else.
I need some advice on how to deal with this and what steps need to be taken next.
