If it has negative consequences to having a relationship with your son then it's a trap. Be very careful. I would concentrate on making sure the divorce is fair, splitting things 50/50 and equal custody of the kids more than having a principle against the divorce itself. Don't waste energy trying to keep people who don't want to be a part of your life.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
