wife moved to.parents house last week scared

[paul19510]

thanks Ben! I did send the W 2 texts today regarding family stuff Kids picks as per db coach. Frist one she answered. Second one she ignored. I get it.

I have plans to go out to dinner with a friend (not a date) next week and practice being good company. Sitch is not allowed as convo (my rules).

I feel pretty good about how I am doing so far. W is what she is. For one month in I'm not a quivering mess and I don't call the W and beg or plead. no frequent Emails or texts. Db coach asked me to tidy up a little. Said some of my actions were in fact pursuing although not strongly. She was encouraged by that but said I could tidy it up a little and back off even more now.

Tonight I have some feelings of anger/frustration due to lies I was told during our last couple of years together. She spent huge amounts of time at the barn and claimed it was unavoidable and that she couldn't be around. Now that she's out, she's not doing that. She's doing other things she likes and the barn is just part of her life like I had asked it to be when we were together. Kind of makes me mad. Just feelings. I'll work through them. she also "could not sleep in our bed" for the past 11 months. Only the couch due to back and hip issues. She sleeps in a bed ever since she left.

I understand people feel frustrated by these kinds of changes. but my Db coach also reminded me, that she's getting healthy and that's a good thing. the potential to come back healthy is there. if she left an kept doing the same dysfunctional things, there's nothing good coming from that. Still feel a little pinch of frustration over the stuff. Make sense? At least I see it so I can let it out.

I'll do pushups to let off some steam. if still in anxiety, doc prescribed very small dose of meds to help.

another day filled with friends and hockey tomorrow. We won 6 to 0 today. Life goes on. I will continue to let go. I am also realizing as I write this, that I have a fear of letting go so good that I don't want the marriage anymore. I'll have to sleep on that one.