I felt the same way you felt about "defending" the marriage by not giving her the divorce. I had a change of heart on this after reading through everyone's responses to me. The more you dig in on your position, the more she will too. You can't fight her emotion with your own, or her emotion with your logic.

At the end of the process, you'll be just as divorced either way whether that's after thousands in legal fees or you come to some kind of agreement. Divorced does not mean done.

H: 29
WAXW: 30

Bomb Drop- 9/9/13
Negotiated Settlement- 5/9/14
D Final- 5/21/14
XW has breakdown in attorney lobby- 5/30/14