Reaching out for support and advice 2

[melissag]

I can't shake the feeling that he is cake eating. He gets to have all the creature comforts of home and also come/go as he pleases. I have GAL/PMA, but we seem to be getting more distant than ever. At least a few months ago we would share the same bed occas. and ML. Now-NOTHING.

Watch out for this, Blues. I do the same thing and have to catch myself quite a bit. Make sure that your decisions are based on YOU. What YOU need. What makes YOU happy. What helps YOU to be able to move forward.

I've heard it many times here . . . don't try to teach your H a lesson. Life will take care of that.

Don't decide to act based on H's cake eating benefiting him. Make that decision if and only if it is hurting you. (And I don't mean just by virtue of that fact that you feel it's unfair and his life is better than yours.)

I always try to remember what I tell my kids . . . "don't worry about what your brother/sister is doing (or has, or whatever), just worry about you."