Yup, I agree, it's been a struggle and you are right about the turmoil. But I got to talk it out here and talk it out with H, the last being something neither of us could do for a longtime.
One of my very best friends looked at me today and said I was an overachiever. I just about peed my pants laughing.
I'm a messy procrastinating would be/ reformed control freak who needs to know everything!!! Now!!!! But overachiever? And she was serious. But it brought to mind that everyone's POV is different I guess and we see what we see or what is presented, you know?
So this so called over achiever will stay true to her and if I begin to waver you can come and smack me upside the head verbally.
You always give me a lot to consider and I can't thank you enough