labug, I've followed your posts and your journey is so inspiring. Hope you don't mind answering a couple questions... reading your story and your posts earlier in this thread, you said you were/are perfectly okay where you are with or without H, but you didn't feel the need to file yet. What was your criteria? Or questions did you asked yourself when you thought about filing?
And I'm also noticing the great efforts you made to come to this place of peace, but did your H ever share what his path has been like? In an ideal situation you have two ppl going through mutual growth... but when one spouse leaves then makes their way around to trying again with the marriage, what's the qualifying actions there? Do they have to work as hard?
I started with al anon about 6 weeks ago as well and am hoping to work towards the peace you describe. It's truly inspirational and I wish you much happiness.
