my wife left, but still lives with me

[FloydMan]

No, don't take it too much to heart but don't dismiss it either. Keep getting along, that is healthy no matter what. You do still need to protect yourself. She likely has a plan, or is planning. Don't take that to be paranoid, just guarded and protect yourself.
The L you spoke with is correct with that advice.
Lawyers aren't cheap though, and you do get what you pay for so don't go too low. Like it or not, they will be the architects for life going forward. Protect yourself. Did I say that already? Does not mean it needs to be adversarial but she is planning too. She has done her consults. Also, a lawyer by their oath is supposed to promote reconciliation. Very few do. Mine did. In fact, 4 of the 7 I consulted with did, and the other 3 wanted to go for the throat. Mine promoted it, then promoted amicable settlement but also is talented in making sure I am looked after and not walked on. He has been successful so far. Stays clear of expensive nasty letters back and forth that drive up costs. He is $300 per hour. My ExW has wasted a lot of $ with a lawyer that playes the letter game and blame and it has not worked for her. Sensible negotiations are best and in the long run and save money. You get what you pay for pal, like anything. Good value is not always cheapest.
Continue the niceness, she will be looking for consistency if she is having second thoughts.