I do not advocate that anyone stops standing until you are really really sure. Forever, you are SO right, it IS just like the vets promised, that when you are done, you'll know it. There will be no doubt in your mind. Until then, bust on, the process really really works!
A divorce has nothing to do with standing IMHO.
Glad it all is working out RL as far as the paperwork goes, heck with him out of the house you will find it much easier to move forward too! AND DETACH!
