JonF I know you realize that wasnt the correct approach as definitely shows you have a long way to go on patience:) Its not going to get any easier. But a good MC can make all the difference. If I would have told my W what you said she would have definitely not showed up. You are way ahead of her as far as working on yourself and who you are. You must remember that.
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it