Yes, I would say he's depressed. I think he thinks he's depressed because he's "stuck" with me, in our house - but I remember him cycling through bouts of depression before. He's started taking anti-depressants - he's about 4 days into that.... just about when he started to go distant again....
He said my working out so much is "annoying"... and I'm like that Brad Pitt character on whichever movie he was in - that worked out all the time...
This situation makes no sense, really. I talk a lot with my friend - also going through a divorce - and we just can't make any sense of it. It's so twisty, turny, up and down....
He also will frequently ask me "what's your problem" if thinks I "have an attitude" or am upset, or stewing, or something if I am acting detached. He definitely wants his space at bedtime at night, no doubt, and has no interest in sharing a bed with me (for sleep - still wants sex every few days) - but every other time it could go either way...
We still grocery shop together (just he and I), eat as a family, do family stuff together, talk about how to spend his bonus in a few months, he gets up and makes the kids bfast while I am getting ready, talks to me about different things, asks for my advice on things.... but again, still in the "I don't know, leave me alone" phase when D talk comes up.
Me, 39. H, 35. 3 boys - 13, 11, 9 - 1 w/ multiple disabilities BD Dec 2012 Sort of a quasi in-house sep Nov 2013
