Thanks for your response. Like I said, we are about a year into this - but it's been pretty bad since November when he decided to start sleeping in the den.
I've been trying to act "as if" and sometimes he's receptive and will seem like we have plans that include each other, and sometimes he tanks and gets distant. This is a distant time for him. I was doing so well that I didn't think I would also tank when he did - but today I am feeling depressed, needy and clingy.
It really is up and down... and there has been no planning on a D. He hasn't seen a lawyer - just talks to friends. Does not tell me anything nice or encouraging about our relationship - but we do discuss future related things. There is no planning of anything really - it's very stagnant. My friend said he doesn't know how to get out, doesn't want to be the bad guy, and then lashes out at me because of that.
I definitely need to do more GAL and detaching - but it's just so very hard when he's living with us, and maintaining a pretty active role. Sometimes when I am GAL (working out with a friend) he gets all "Why are you working out so much? Why are you away from the home so much?" It's odd. Kind of like he's resentful.
Anyone have any thoughts on the LRT when they live at home?
Me, 39. H, 35. 3 boys - 13, 11, 9 - 1 w/ multiple disabilities BD Dec 2012 Sort of a quasi in-house sep Nov 2013
