Wif wants Divorce, I do Not 2

[melissag]

BH, it has been said several times already, but I am going to just repeat it. Please do not involve your MIL in your issues with your W. You and your MIL are only making things worse. Right now, nothing either one of you says is going to have any effect on your W other than to push her farther away.

Your W has asked for time and space. You are not giving it to her yourself, and now you are sending MIL into the trenches. Don't use the excuse that it's not you, it's your MIL. You need to tell her that you appreciate her help but ask that she please stop and stay out of it, so as not to make things worse.

Have you considered this from your W's perspective? Just pretend you are her for a minute. You don't have to agree with how she feels, but accept that what she feels is her reality. How would you want to be treated in this situation? Would it help if you had people nagging at you and your mother getting in your business?

Ask your MIL to stay out of it. Leave your W alone for a while. She hasn't even had the chance to think, because you and your MIL are always in her face.