Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

labug,

Thank you for the input! I started this way back when the S first took place. I told her she should pay the bills since she was staying in the home and had access to a computer and all the bills would be mailed to the home. I paid the bills from early on in the M. I wanted her to do it back then but she doesn't keep a checkbook and bounced 4 or 5 checks.

I then took over paying them but always asked her input on how much extra we should pay towards credit cards and mortgage to pay things down quicker.

Since the S she has paid all the bills and I transfer my portion into her account as we still have joint accounts but no longer do we just in and transfer from each other accounts. Kinda joint but separate I guess. She said that I was the one who decided that I would pay the bills when we first M. I didn't want to bring up the check issue as that would have been bringing up the past and there was nothing to gain by it except "winning" an argument.

When certain issues arose with bills I asked her to take care of them instead of offering to do it or just doing it without her knowledge.


There is no legal separation, She says she is looking for a job but I don't ask these questions because its her life to do with what she wants. She did tell me she passed on, back in July, going back to a previous job because they offered her substantially less, she later told me what was offered and it was her starting salary from 2 years ago about 10% less than what she was making when she left to take the job that she lost in July. With overtime she would have made about the same amount as the job she just lost and would not have missed a paycheck. Again, this did not seem to be a fight I wanted to pursue because we were separated and she could do whatever she thought best for her.

To me I would have taken it. She didn't like it because of the traffic and commute times back then that is why she switched jobs to begin with.

Now if she took that job back, it just wouldn't be the commute and traffic it would screw with her gym routine. I, of course, do not know this for sure but that is what I think imho.

She claims that she has no money, which I believe and know first hand, and that is why she hasn't filed for D. She said you have the money why don't you file?

She said she should have filed when we first S. I asked why she didn't and got no response.