Do you love him as he stands before you today or does he have to change in some way?
This from Buddhist Boot Camp today, it came to mind as I read your post:
"Everybody says they love somebody. It means nothing (even if it's true), because WHAT YOU FEEL ONLY MATTERS TO YOU! It's what you DO to the people you say you love that matters. It's the only thing that counts!" —A quote from the movie 'The Last Kiss'
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss