Stuck in the mud!

[2little2late]

Pudmuddler,
I have often felt kind of crazy and couldn't understand how I could be married to and be so distant from my wife but looking back my wife has never asked for what she wants. She has in the past said that if I truly loved her I would know what she wants. I would tell her that I am not a mind reader.
In the end it was a stand off and we both just stayed frustrated.

We are in the same situation now.
She has said that she is done with our marriage but has never said that she wants a divorce.
She makes plans to go out together.
She makes vacation plans together.
She talks about moving to a new home together.

I am more confused now than I ever have been before.
In bed she faces me now when sleeping where in the past year her back was always to me.
We have more subtle touching in bed and while talking or sitting on our couch.
I want to make a move and kiss her but don't.

UGH!